The 5 Biggest Regrets From Mitzvah Families After Their Event
After years of looking forward to it and after months and months of planning it, the day has come and gone and how do you feel? Probably a little tired from dancing, a little relieved that there is no more planning, a little sad that it’s over, but hopefully satisfied with how everything turned out. We hope after all of the time and effort you’ve put in, your child’s mitzvah is as special as you as always hoped it would be. However, we know that not everything always goes as planned and there may be some things you wish you had known earlier to prepare for or things you could have done to prevent those last-minute surprises. So with that, we want to give you 5 of the biggest regrets mitzvah parents feel that they’ve made when planning their event - a tool we think you need to make sure that you are nothing other than happy once your son or daughter’s mitzvah is over.
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1. Not Hiring Help
Although there are 4 other things on this list, hiring help may be one of the most important. If you’ve ever planned an event, which we’re sure you have, you know how overwhelming it can sometimes be. While you may feel inclined to do all the work yourself knowing how special this day should be, relying on people who plan mitzvahs for a living, will help you truly make it as special as it can be, with less stress to you and with probably more resources than you could have provided. Hiring help will take more off your plate, knowing the day is in expert hands, and truly allow you to enjoy it when it comes!
2. Not Sticking To A Budget
Creating a budget and sticking to one are two different things. While the first is good, the second is even better. The trick is to create a detailed bar/bat mitzvah budget early so that you know how much to put aside for each aspect of planning and if something were to come up later on in the process, you know where you can take from if need be. This works best when you coincide your budget with a projected timeline. And although it is good to stick by your budget, it is also good to know what items you can and can’t be flexible with when it comes to how much to spend or whether or not it’s worth it when receiving an estimate.
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3. Involving Your Child Too Late In The Process
When planning a bar/bat mitzvah there is a lot to keep in mind and sometimes it can distract from what the event is all about - your child. At the end of the day, a mitzvah is held to celebrate your son or daughter. This means it is important to ask them what their expectations are for the day and what things they would really like to be included. It is important to note that this should be done early so that you can account for their preferences when creating a timeline and setting a budget, as well as involve them with any part of the planning process that you feel necessary. Be sure to still stick to your budget and if that means not involving everything they’ve requested, ask them for their favorites so that you know what to exclude if needed.
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4. Not Telling Your Vendor & Planner What’s Most Important To You Early In The Process
When hiring bar mitzvah vendors or bat mitzvah planners, it is important that through the hiring process you feel that they are a good fit and that they understand your vision for the event. Because of this, make sure that you feel comfortable with who you hire and that in your first meeting or in the ones soon to come, you tell them the things that are crucial in what should be involved. This way they know exactly what to include to make the day what you hope it will be!
5. Not Enjoying The Moment
Other than hiring help, enjoying the moment is by far the best advice we can give! After all of the work you’ve put into planning, you deserve to enjoy the day you helped put together! But even more importantly, this day is about your child, your family, and what it means to your community. It is a special day for all and you should let the planner part of you step aside, and enjoy the moments you’re creating!
Although mitzvah parents have made these mistakes in the past, we hope with these tips, you won’t have to! While there are many aspects to planning a mitzvah, these are some of the biggest and some of the best to get you started! Good luck and let us know if you need any help creating the best bar/bat mitzvah along the way!
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If you’re looking to plan your child’s bar or bat mitzvah, Xtreme Event Group will take care of all your event entertainment needs. Schedule a consultation with one of our mitzvah planning experts today.
